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Funny and Relatable MY DANCE  In my bedroom:  In bathroom:  With my friends:  In front of computer:  In a party:  LOL! i got this from tumblr and sooo relatable  Label: Funny, Relatable, Tumblr 10 ways you [won't] get your ex back I got this post from tumblr and i just wanto re-share  enjoy~Submitted by Tiary: Official Creator, Guru, Advice Columnist, and Photographer Everyone desperately tries to find the perfect answer. The perfect remedy. The perfect cure. Whether the breakup pierced your soul yesterday, or two years ago, we all have a common ground. Just how in the world do we get our ex back?!?! or How do we get over him!?!? I can’t tell you the perfect answer, unfortunately. What I can tell you is what the answer is not. Breakups are tough. Most everyone can agree with that. However, so many people make the mistake of trying to take matters into their own hands, obsess over rekindling the fire, and do everything possible that inevitably pushes the ex further away. Don’t be one of those people. Don’t end up bringing more pain and heartbreak upon yourself. So while you wait for the perfect list of things that will either get you over your ex or win him back over, take a look at this one. Here’s a few things you should avoid doing:
You shouldn’t have to prove your love to anyone, and if you wait patiently and don’t settle for less than you deserve, you’ll find the person who will recognize your love for him (and reciprocate it back) without you having to constantly prove it to him. Love is a feeling that must be felt. plain and simple. 2. Don’t make yourself so available. Showing up to every basketball game, purposely walking past him in the hallways in school, and still calling him every afternoon will do nothing but push him away even more. Most guys like mystery, and when you eliminate yourself from his life (rather than always popping up out of the blue) he’ll wonder about you more. He’ll start wondering how you’re doing, who you’re with, and why you don’t come around as much. 3. Don’t be so dependent on him. A woman should be able to handle her own, with or without a man. Often women both suffocate and frustrate a man when they’re so dependent on him. You shouldn’t be so dependent on a man that the break up is the end of your life, because honestly, life goes on. And it always will. 4. Don’t beg your ex to come back to you. This can cause the ex to lose respect for you, and you’ll end up feeling even worse if the ex doesn’t hear you out. Besides, you’re a lot better and worth a lot more than that! If you really have to settle for begging someone to be with you, imagine how that makes you look! 5. Don’t convince yourself that things will be better this time around. There was obviously a reason that the relationship went sour, and if you couldn’t avoid the problems before the relationship ended, then chances are it’s done and over. While some people have re-entered a relationship successfully, a lot of others experience more pain, heartbreak and stress. It’s easy to become pre-occupied with trying so hard to do everything right and it becomes a task to avoid making the same mistakes that were made to cause all past problems. This causes major stress on the individual and on the relationship. 6. Don’t try to send your ex on a guilt trip. Sending your ex on a guilt trip may get him back for a short period of time, but remember it doesn’t eliminate all the feelings and reasons he wanted to end the relationship in the first place… and eventually those feelings will return, and you’ll be facing a break up again. If you have to settle on this tactic, then you probably weren’t meant to be together anyway. 7. Don’t try buying your ex’s love back. This is one that I personally hate so much! You’re so much better than having to buy someone’s love!! This sort of tactic can also cause your ex to lose respect for you, and it often makes you look pathetic or weak. If you’re buying gifts for your ex, then you’re only wasting your own time and money… and often your ex will use you for the gifts anyway. Save your time and money for yourself… or someone who deserves it! 8. Don’t become obsessed with showing your ex how bad you feel about losing him. This again goes back to begging him to stay, telling him why you deserve to be with him, being dependent on him..etc. At the end of the day, you can only count on you. You determine your own happiness, and if you were using this person to fill that hole for you, you were headed down the wrong path anyway. Again, you shouldn’t have to prove your love or try forcing him/her back by making instilling feelings of guilt. 9. Don’t result to your ex’s friends and family members. At the end of the day, your ex’s happiness is determined by his own self. Not what his friends and family believe he should/should not do. And most importantly…. 10. Don’t result to settling for a rebound! This is probably one of the biggest mistakes that everyone makes. Let me guess, you’ll make him jealous, right? Well yes, this may be true but a rebound is only a temporary solution to a problem that may very well be permanent! Think about it: How the hell would you feel if you found out you were a rebound?!? How would you feel if you were falling for a guy and you find out that he’s still in love with his ex and was only using you to get over all those feelings and or/ make him/her jealous!?!? Wouldn’t you feel like crap? *Getting a rebound is only covering all the feelings that you still have for your ex. They do not eliminate them. You have to be mature and respectful enough to take the time off after a break up to get over all those feelings yourself…before you bring someone else into it. You owe that much to your next love. In a way, a rebound is a way of lying to the person you’re with. You know good and well that you still have all these old feelings for your ex, so why are you using this person to get over that? This person deserves to be with someone who can love him how he should be loved, and he just can’t get that if you’re still stuck on your ex. And you need time to do that. Getting into relationships immediately following, prematurely, or before all the old feelings have faded can be a set-up for failure. It can bring on new drama, pain, and heartbreak. I was even guilty of this tactic myself and I ended up cheating on my new boyfriend with my ex that I was still in love with all along. I wasn’t honest with myself. I had known where my heart belonged, and it wasn’t with the rebound. Save yourself the extra drama. Avoid rebounds. We may not have discovered the perfect remedy to getting over an ex, but there are things that you can definitely avoid in making the situation worse. Read it. Think about it. Live it. You deserve better. peace, love, and inspiration; Tiary Label: information, share, Tumblr it's a loooongg time! xD heeyy I'm back! :D did someone missed me? LOL well, I started left this blog since i fall in love with Tumblr  lol btw follow me on tumblr, click here  okay, time for me to share something here. but what am i supposed to do here? i have no idea to share  talk about my life aja yee  yahyah, you know, tomorrow is the BIG MOMENT in my life! come once only in a year. LOL what's that? it's about report card, omg. one of my bestie have to stay in her graduate. aah, how pity. and i won't be like her! i have to continues what I've done before! I already do the best and time for school gimme the result of all my works. God, bless me. bless me and bless me. whoops, and all of my friends too really, i will miss my class X1  this is the freak class i ever knew. we are the best of all the best. we are good. we are one cause we are Family  well, would you pray for me for the report card tomorrow? i hope you would. ok then, i'm so sad for hear the bad news from my bestie be strong girl! i still love you and always here for you.hey, let's talk about my schedule holiday I really wish this holiday i'll go out from this city to somewhere. my uncle invite me to go to his city, Yogyakarta. but you know, my dad suggest me to go to Manado! but i'll go there alone and yeah, my mom invite me to Jakarta to my uncle's house there and have fun! idk which one is prefer. but i guess, that plans will fail :S ah idc. the most important is, there's internet in my house! haha but i think, go to Manado is fun. my dad will send me alone by the plane and my parents there will pick me up. new experience. Yogyakarta? my uncle suggest me to go there alone also but by bus. well, not too interesting. ok, let the time show me the way :p I LOVE AUDITION! even tho i'm not a pro dancer and i don't have pro skills, but i still love it. i think i'm gonna spend my holidays for waste my money to play audition in my best place! haha so, who's wanna challenge me? no bet, just challenge LOLS and you know, my skills just growing up. my friend, Ivan, just lost his skills not at all, but step by step he'll lost his skill HAHA *evil* btw last time i played, i just ask mbak2 penjaga warnet for send me the audition's songs! xD [mix language] LOL thanks sis! [] well, I think enough for this post. I don't have anything more to share. aah, i found something! I'll share some pics made by me :P after this post. kbyeee Label: holiday (:, report card, Tumblr spend my holiday at home SO SUCKS do you know? i'm so waiting holiday for a long time and patiently. but when the holiday's come, i just stay at home and waste my time with my fckg home sweet home? OH COME ON! mom.. dad.. take me to somewhere lah! well, if you give me some money or full my wallet with money i will keep shut up :x LOL! okay, today is Christmast Eve! aww how fast! i'll celebrate Christmast with my BIGparents :D at my house -_- sucks well idc. together with people we love is great :) my other uncle has arrived last night at 11.55PM. he's not with his parents, idk why and idc. hm, my best uncle! he's so fckg funny LOL i love him so much ♥ :P HAHAHA now i wish something. i wish on my Christmast, all of my wishes will be come true and have some miracles o:) Christ, answer my wishes please, i love You. we love You. all people love You. and You know it ;) and please give me and my family a great Christmast Eve ♥ save us, save Surabaya, save Indonesia and save our earth :) xxx hey, bytheway i have new blog :P there's nothing special sih. not too good looking like blogger. wanna see? click here my friend, Dessy Natalie, ask me to make it :P well, finally i made it HAHA :) ahh i'm so sleepy and tired. i don't sleep enough last night x_x LESSSLEEP ARGH! well, i can't sleep and i don't want to sleep honestly :P my eyes like a ghost! dark under my eyes and i'm look like a ghost. oh please -,- in this beautiful morning, my bro accuse me eh~ he told that i'm not sleep tonight *that's real sih :P* but i lied to him. i said, i already woke up in early morning. i'v slept well last night << LIAR! HAHA xD idc. who will force me when i can't sleep YET? no one except my mom or my dad >< lol i have so many plans today! and i'm so confused. first, i want tgt Atom Mall with my mom ♥ she promise me will buy me something :P second, my old friends invite me to reunion at PTC. uhh i really want to join them! i want i want! third, i have plan with my bro to order my silly bands. we have bussiness :P fourth, I WANNA PLAY AUDITION WITH MY FRIENDS!!!!! AAAARGGH! so a long time i didn't play game online with my friends! ulalaaaa~ so how? i'm so confused now. 4 option that so hard for me to choose -__- let the time answer it all. i hope i will never regret with the decision time. fyuh~ well, i think enough. just it and finish here- (: Label: batters :P, Christmast, holiday (:, random, should know, together, Tumblr |
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